Why Thin Is NOT In… 80% Men Say They LOVE Big Women!
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Latest Poll Show 80% of Men Want Curvy Voluptuous Women, NOT Rail Thin Stick Models Like We Have Been Told
In the wake of Madrid’s banning of models with a BMI of 18 or lower, the question has been raised again of whether fashion models are too thin. The fashion industry’s continued move towards thinner and thinner models has come under fire from several sources, mainly because of the influence it has had over young women and the rise of anorexia and bulimia.
In the last 20 years, fashion models have gone from a size 8 to a size 0 for runway models. Within the same time period, the average American woman has gone from a size 10 to a size 14. Yet, American women, according to an online poll, see the super thin stick models and feel they are unattractive and unhappy in their average or curvy bodies.
As governments are now getting involved in trying to reverse the skinny ideal, other agencies and spokespeople, like Nancy Hayssen, a former plus size model, are speaking out to women everywhere to recognize beauty in women no matter what their size.
Nancy’s website became the number one site on the internet for the term “sexy plus size model”. She has been inundated with responses from men and women all over the world praising her beauty as a plus size woman. With the constant message in the media that you can only be beautiful if you are skinny to the bone she became determined to prove otherwise. As Nancy puts it, “I’ve always been happy and proud of my voluptuous body. I wouldn’t choose to be rail thin if my life depended on it.”
There are over 8 million people in this country who are anorexic, bulimic or have eating disorders. Most of them are young women. “Young women look at these magazines showing super thin models and think they should be like them in order to be attractive. Yet contrary to popular belief that skinny is desirable, the recent poll ran show the truth that men like some meat on a woman!” says Nancy Hayssen author of “You Can Be Sexy at ANY Size!”.
According to this same recent online poll of men ages 18-51 and older, 80% of men are attracted to women that are curvy and voluptuous such as Jennifer Lopez, and an additional 15% are attracted to average bodies.
It didn’t shock her at all to learn the results from the poll that most men prefer average to curvy, large women. “Men love women that have some meat on their bones. I’ve always known this.”
Surprisingly, this leaves only 5% of men that actually find rail thin anorexic looking women like Nicole Ritchie and models we see on the runways as truly beautiful.
Even more shocking when asked the question: “Who is the sexiest woman ever?” the winning response was “my wife” beating out historic beauty Marilyn Monroe who made second place.
The average American woman is 5’4” and wears a size 14. This also happens to be roughly the size Marilyn Monroe, considered one of the most beautiful women celebrities of our time would have been today. Size 14 is considered plus size, therefore, the average American woman is plus size. This is good news for women everywhere since men are really attracted to average curvy women.
“We’re being lied to everyday. The fashion industry and Hollywood have spread the MYTH that men want skinny anorexic looking women. The truth is—it’s plus size or curvy women that are considered beautiful,” says Nancy. She now speaks out about the reality of what men really want through the internet and the radio letting the public know what the “real skinny” is.
The truth is you don’t have to be skinny to be beautiful… in fact it’s the exact opposite. Learn tips revealed from the just released book “101 Secrets to Be Sexy at ANY Size!” how you can look and feel sexy today no matter what size you are.
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Contact Nancy Hayssen for an Interview on “Hollywood Skinny Myths, the Secret to What Men Really Want and the Truth How You Can Be Sexy at ANY Size!” 707.758.0149 Email
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People of any shape, size, color or age can find work as promotional models as long as they have the right look and personality needed to endorse the brand or product.
Marilyn Monroe was -not- a size 14.
Comment by Robert — August 13, 2007 @ 2:46 am
Where are all of these men who are so open minded about size?! For the past three months, I have been resorting to on-line dating due to my heavy schedule and I cannot begin to express how many men just cut me off because of my size. I’m 5’6″ and weigh 165 lbs and wear a size 14/16. I’ve been told flat out I was fat by several men. I even had one guy who had the gall to write to me that the sexiest woman he dated was a size 8–alluding that this size 8 was the biggest woman he dated. I am about ready to throw in the towel. I’m growing real tired in being called fat.
Comment by Tess — September 19, 2007 @ 4:36 pm
Though I am a full-figured woman, I must concede with Robert’s comment. Marilyn Monroe was not a size 14 by today’s standards – the sizes have been altered since then so that a size 14 in the 1950′s would be more like today’s size 8. Your website is being just as biased as the fashion industry by misrepresenting myths as true.
I understand it is meant to give woman like myself a self-esteem boost, but I must wonder how people will ever come to terms with who they are when lies and misrepresentations of truth abound (as well as mudslinging thinner people).
Comment by Jazzy — November 16, 2007 @ 3:34 am
Tess, Do give up. I happen to think thicker women are gorgeous. Your measurements are far from fat.
Comment by Troy — December 12, 2007 @ 7:43 pm
People always try to make you feel so inadeqate for being thin, but in essence, it’s a double standard and very hyprocritical. Black men and others who love “thick women” tear thin women down but in the same breath complain that thick women do not get preferential treatment.
Also, I noticed that women a thick woman declares that she is beautiful and loves her curves, people cheer, it’s celebrated. But don’t let a thin woman say the same – she’s considered concieted and self-centered. Why can’t every woman feel sexy and celebrated without tearing the other down? I have my preference with men, but I don’t put other men down who doesn’t fit that mold.
Comment by diamond — April 17, 2008 @ 6:11 am
IM a size 14 levi ladies 515 and 505 thatmeans Im plus sized I dont think sizw14 is a plus size I have gained alittle weight since i moved out here in Feb been depressed about thing that took place in my life lived in a stuffy rv for a while no exercise did it plus Im big boned cant even get to a size io or 12 anymore plus Im older doesnt help not going to say though Im fat or plus sized being the average american women is a size 14
Comment by Carol — July 21, 2008 @ 5:02 am
If you can be sexy at ANY size, why is it such a horrible, disgusting thing to be thin? Why are you conisdere a “bad example” if you are thin, but you’re “healthy and beautiful” if you’re 50 pounds overweight?
I am naturally a size 0, am I supposed to make myself gain weight because I make the poor average women feel fat? That’s the same as telling an average woman that she needs to lose weight to be beautiful.
Models should be ALL sizes, from 0 to whatever. The only reason people say models have to be either a size zero or average is because they need a reason to bitch about something, and if models were all sizes they wouldn’t be able to say “OMG all these thin women make girls anorexic!!” or “The media alwasy tells people to be thin if they want to be pretty, even though the phrase Real Women Have Curves is shoved down everyone’s throats everytime they open a magazine!”
Another thing I find irritating…why is it that if a man says he prefers big women, he is praised..but if he prefers thin women, he is shallow? Why do you care what he likes? If he likes thin women and you’re not thin..get over it and go find a man who DOES like your body instead of bitching about the ones who don’t. It doesn’t offend me when men say they like big women…that just means I’ll have to go after someone who likes MY body. Having a preferance is NOT evil…would he be considered shallow if big women were all over the magazines, movies, ect and he said he prefered them?
Comment by Erika — September 13, 2008 @ 6:13 pm
I think that Erika is missing the bit about size-0 models on the runway being 6’0 tall. Probably much thinner than your natural size 0, because the truth is, being fashion-thin is not natural.
No one is trying to insult thin women, and the people being offended here seem to be confused about the term “thin”. If your rib cage isn’t showing, then by fashion’s standards, you are curvy, and you are the kind of woman that men prefer.
Also, by my own standards, any man willing to put numerical limits on what he considers beautiful is shallow- not because he has an opinion, but because he is being eaten up by what the media says and has an obvious disregard for what is natural and healthy.
Comment by Kristen — October 16, 2008 @ 1:05 am
I think that this website is great. It gives plus sized women like me something to read. If you are small or thin, then congradulations! I hope that you love being that size and you should have no problems finding skinny jeans any wear. However, the world would be boring with just skinny women running around. That’s where us big girls come into play. I think we are sexy and beautiful. We are curvaceous and ample, there is more to grab. Men don’t run the risk of poking themshelves with a hipbone or rib. Plus have you ever seen the look on a big girls face when told that she is beautiful or sexy? Its the most amazing look ever! I personally think it makes that woman even more sexy. Oh, and to the women out there that think that men don’t like big girls, They are out there! I found one that loves me for me at any size. He never lets me feel like I am fat or ugly or not worth it. Keep up the good work Nancy!
Comment by Marleen — October 19, 2008 @ 7:53 pm
Great website….I am now a size 14/16 after having been a size 5, then 8 then 10 so I’ve been treated differently by men who prefer slim women over voluptuous….I tried online dating as well, and I have to tell you I went on four dates, all of which told me I would be perfect “if I was thinner”. I don’t think men prefer the unrealistic runway models, I think they just prefer average…and I think it’s a peer pressure thing too. Guys don’t want to be known as the nice guy with the fat chick. I know that is harsh to say, but it is my experience, in dating, and at work. The guys I work fawn all over the younger, slimmer girls, and they hardly notice me at all….except when they call me “ma’am”. I’m only 41. So I’m not convinced of the stats that men prefer fuller sized women….so off to the gym I go, for me, not for them.
Comment by debra — November 16, 2008 @ 6:30 pm
I am 21 and currently a plus sized model just starting out. I am 5 foot 2 and size 9 which according to me isn’t a plus size model but according to my agent I am. I’m curvy and at a weight I kind of like…lol could cut back on the Starbucks ;D . I’ve actually been journaling my progress and about body image and that sort of thing on my LJ. I know a lot about it since I’m currently a uni student in cultural and global studies. I’ve actually studied the ‘industry of cool’ and body image.
Funny story my guy friends blatently told this one girl she was a stick figure and that they love a little more meat on their girlfriends bones or else they’d and I quote “get their eye poked out”. Awww I was so proud of them. But that was a smidge mean too.
Comment by Jazz — November 21, 2008 @ 3:54 pm
I am about 5’7, 145 pounds, and I wear a dress size 8 or 10. I carry most of my weight in my chest, and a little more than I would like in my stomach. I am 18 years old, and I have never felt pressure to look like Nicole Richie or Mischa Barton. However, I do feel pressure to look like Jessica Alba, Holly Madison, and Jessica Simpson. I don’t believe that any of these girls are unhealthy, just slightly unrealistic for someone with my large bone structure. However, they do give me motivation to go to the gym, eat healthy, etc etc. I believe that if you focus your insecurities into something productive and set healthy goals for yourself, you’ll be fine.
Comment by suzanne miller — January 27, 2009 @ 8:47 pm
i have no idea whats wrong with the world. Im 13 and i have a developed body, about sizes 10-12 and i dont give a crap. im also about 5’4. people have called me names such as godzilla, king kong kiran, monster, etc. but many others have said im beautiful, cute, volumptous, and pretty. few have said that i have a big bust for my age, which is a C. that seems perfectly normal since i have such a study build i could be a junior varsity football player. my mom is plus sized and she is just goergeous, and im not exxageratting. my father used to put my mom on crash diets, she got mad, he left, they’re divorced, and here we are today. my mom shops at lane bryant and the avenue, she looks like a model in her suits, skirts, even in jeans and a sweater. it not always about the body, nice features also count. im sturdy and i happen to consider myself cute: olive toned skin, curvy, straight brown/rusty ish hair, black eyes, i look plain indian from my dads side, hispanic on my moms side. i work out, i do good in gym, and my mom works out too. i consider any plus sized women like me and my mother beautiful
Comment by kiran — February 3, 2009 @ 9:07 pm
hi.. so here i am. 29, single, and having a small pitty party for myself- which fo the record, i avoid as much as possible.. yes, i have curves, but i see myself as well proportioned despite that.. im also a single mom, divorced. living in this city far far away from my family and although my friends, who are amazing, tell me that im beautiful, i cant help but wonder why im still single.. im confident, happy, outgoing, funny, yada yada, but im not skinny. and i dont mind a little weight on men either! i just dont get it.. as far as love goes.. i think, why not me? i love love. and i love being in love. -well, when the feeling is mutual…. i dont dwell on it much,, i guess im just having a day..
for the record, im 5’6, size 18 pant, and 38DD chest.. yes, true. . but, well proportioned.. i think.. .
Comment by crysten — April 10, 2009 @ 11:00 pm
i am 15 years old and im a freshman in high skool i wear d cup in bra and im 13/14 in pants sized. 8 was practically crying when i found this site. all my friends in rotc are so thin and pretty i wish i could be like them, even though they say im not fat but one of the prettiest ones there, i know better, they dont wake up every morning and cry because they hate there body. i am really insecure about my body i shy away in the locker rooms because all the girls are skinny and im not. i can’t help being 5’6 and 167 lbs iv actually lost a lot of my gut from rotc and i feel sexier but i still cant ignore how all my friends are so thin. they all envy my big hips and big boobs but its not worth it, yea im a baby for crying all the time but i cant help it when i was teased when i was in 5th grade the boys would tease me and call me whale and i would just take it and then cry myself to sleep wishing to be skinny like the actresses in the magzines and movie. the only thing i like bout my body is my stomach, itsmaller
Comment by jessica — April 14, 2009 @ 2:53 am
Go Kiran! I love it so much when I hear a teenager with this kind of opinion. It’s so rare. You are set for a life of mental health and happiness and you will stand out.
Which is the most beautiful fat or thin? What a stupid question. Larger women can be beautiful, thin women can be beautiful – beauty is subjective and the media tries to make it objective. That is the ONLY argument here.
Comment by Sue Thomason — April 20, 2009 @ 10:53 am
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, blah blah blah.
You go on telling yourselves large women are beautiful by whatever lights you define beautiful, but keep in mind that that’s just how you define it.
The truth is, attractiveness is not subjective; it is highly objective. What more men find attractive is more attractive, no bones about it. There will always be guys who like “plus-sized” women, but these are not the majority of men. What do men find attractive? Look on the cover of the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue – there it is. Those women are not “large” or “plus-sized” or whatever euphemism you prefer. The editors chose women who will sell the most issues, and the more attractive a model is, the more issues she will sell. No amount of “You go girl!”s will change that.
Comment by Chuck — October 19, 2009 @ 3:31 am
Men do NOT like fat girls that’s a lie! If they’re saying they like larger women, they must mean larger in comparison to runway models. I am a size 14/large bone structure, I used to be a size 20 and at my lowest weight I was like 140. I can say from experience men prefer smaller women. If men like big women so much why did the last 4 guys have an issue with my weight? Why do guys hit on fat girls when their friends aren’t around but only show off the thin/skinny ones in public? There may be a small fraction of the male population which prefer big women but most of them like women who aren’t big.
Comment by Brittany — October 24, 2009 @ 7:42 am
LOVE this site! Curvy girls, don’t give up! My husband SWEARS that he does not like fat girls, yet he PRAISES my appearance constantly and openly adores my curves. He hates when I lose even a little bit of weight, and does not seem to realize he is actually married to a plus size woman! I’m 5’3 and size 16. But he doesn’t know that, all he knows is he LIKES what he sees
Other men seem to like the way I look as well, if there smiles and stares are any indication! So take it from me; gorgeous, hunky men who love curvy women DO exist!
Comment by Cathy — December 16, 2009 @ 5:23 pm
The reason why the fashion industry is dominated by thin women is because it is run by gay men. Gay men dont like women they like other men so they find women that look like little boys to model their clothes.
Comment by Damon — December 23, 2009 @ 6:27 pm
Ya know, I’ve heard all these stories about thin women and curvy women. “Oh poor me, I’m curvy yet flat tummied. Men hate me.”
“Poor me, I’m thin and men hate me.”
Okay, well, where’s the women who truly deserve to pity themselves? The women who aren’t curvy but have bellies? The women who cry and cry, hate themselves and watch other curvy or thin women get all the attention while they sit on the bench and become part of the furniture?
Yeah, stop bitching. You didn’t live through life with failed diets, big bellies and thighs and round faces the way girls like my sister did. I watched her tear herself apart ever since she was a little girl.
She’s gone now, ya know, bullied and eventually pushed to her limits and was only 19 when she offed herself. So don’t fucking cry to anyone about your body if it wasn’t like the way I described it above. >= /
Comment by Anna — February 5, 2010 @ 8:25 am
wow, great website ! i also became plus sized because i have a thyroid malfunction, and the irony is that’s how i learned to love my body ! and i swear to god, i never ever received so much man attention, and i got up to 190 lbs ! damn ! now i take my medicine and i dropped to size 10-12 and i plan on dropping to size 8 by eating more healthy, but no way i am losing my curves ! anyway, cutting sugar is great for my body as i can see. people call me fat, especially envious women, but who gives a damn, i am hot ! cheers an lots of love
Comment by saby — March 4, 2010 @ 7:55 am
Guys love women who take care of themselves and who are comfortable in their own skin.
My weight has fluctuated by fifty pounds in the last five years and I have ALWAYS had men interested in dating me.
Find the right haircut for your face, take care of your skin, buy clothes that flatter you, etc. By taking care of yourself, you’ll be a knockout
Don’t wait to be a certain size … you should be smiling TODAY. That smile and that confidence are going to be sexy to someone.
Comment by veronica — March 24, 2010 @ 10:12 pm
None of you are plus size. You are a part of the majority, but no one wants to admit that most of the women in America are sizes 12 and up. I am a size 24 and i love everything about myself. I don’t even give my size a second thought because i am a wonderful and intelligent woman. Anyone that has issues with me really and truly has issues with themselves bc i am happy and i live my life to the fullest and i would advise each of you to do the same. Live is too short to stress of the small things and weight is one; however, if you are unhappy then exercise. I work out twice a week and my goal is to become healthier. If i lose weight – fine. If i don’t – fine. So even in exercising, your goal should be to become healthy and not lose massive amounts of weight. LIVE and let the rest take care of itself! Plus size and loving it….
Comment by Warrior — March 30, 2010 @ 7:50 pm
who the hell cares what men like they are worthless and ugly. and that is also because 80 percent of the country is fat so any one under 200 pounds is called anonerix. this is proff men are forcing women to be sick and unhealthy i find it disgusting that you are forcing women to be obese and unhealthy just beacuse of useless pig likes know as men. men derserve to br tortured so i can feel good about myself and all the guys you know are ugly
Comment by sweetcherry — April 9, 2010 @ 7:31 pm
This article is stupid. There are men who like skinny women, men who like fat women, and men you like average women. Just like there are women who like tall guys, or guys with long hair, or hairy chests… Why does everything have to be so black and white? What’s the point in generalizing? Unless you are a model, burlesque dancer, or a hooker that relies on it for money, why does it really matter? Why focus on making other people like you? Is that what you want to spend your life doing? Sitting around wondering if guys are attracted to you or not? Give me a break. It’s shit like this that makes women crazy. It makes me crazy that someone can actually sign their name to a pile of excrement like this article.
Comment by Peter — May 12, 2010 @ 2:58 am
I just have to say I used to be a size 20 and I just woke up one morning and decided to get fit. I’ve dropped over a hundred pounds by myself with becoming a heathier eater and a regular exceriser. I’m now 5’2 and a size 8. I am also a lesbian, and I do have to say for myself I want to be fit still. However, I can’t help but LOVE thick beautiful plus size women. You ladies make me want to be your fit little soft butch. Seriously, to all the plus size ladies out there…. you make my jaw drop to the ground in awe. The sexiest part of you being plus size… is when YOU’RE confident with yourself.
Comment by Ashley — May 19, 2010 @ 7:56 am
@cathy your 5’3 and a size 16 newsflesh curves are not folds you husband is probally ugly fat is not curvy curvy is small waist round hips and a good butt your not curvy your fat and good point chuck your right
Comment by sweetcherry — June 14, 2010 @ 12:32 am
From my experience, I have found many plus size women to be mean, hateful, and very hypocritical. I have been slim most of my life. It’s in my DNA. I also work out and eat very healthy. But you know what, I should not have to apologize for the way that I look. You have no idea how many times I have been ridiculed by fat women. Your confidence should be drawn from self-perception, not humilating your opponent to lift your spirits.
I am also one of the nicest people you will ever meet. But immediately I am perceived as concieted and shallow for the way that I look. If you’re plus-sized, stop complaining about it, and accept it and learn to love yourself. You will make yourself ugly, bitter, and miserable attacking skinny women! This will get you nowhere…
Comment by Native New Yorker — June 14, 2010 @ 8:23 pm
I’m 5’10″, and am naturally a size 2. The only time I gained weight was when I was growing, and now that I’ve stopped, so has the weight gain. People are constantly telling me, oh destiny your legs are so long and thin, you’re so skinny, etc. They don’t say, you have such pretty legs and a great body, so I’m confused as to whether they’re saying it as a compliment. I can’t gain weight. Period. While grocery shopping once, my mom even bought me a cheesecake and told me to eat it once I got home. So for you ladies with a little bit of curves, quit complaining and trying to knock them off; some people want them, but can’t get them.
Comment by Destiny Cross — July 6, 2010 @ 10:26 pm
I want a very fat american woman to love. I am a Liberian; 5’7″; 55 years; bright in color; computer operator with Ministry of Health and Social Welfare, Monrovia, Liberia.
Email# 076204919
Comment by David Toe Kpoluye — July 15, 2010 @ 4:52 pm
ok, if you haven’t realized their are hundreds of thousands of men out their and they all have their one type of woman that they prefer and guess what, all of them are not jus plus size and all are not jus thin either, it really depends on the type of mind set that the man has, and for those of you who feel that smaller size women are “evil” as you say, i think that that is jus about 1 of the most ignorant childish things i’ve heard, how about grow up & let it go! because as long as u blame others for ur own self-esteem issues you will never make any progress with yourself
Comment by Nicole — July 28, 2010 @ 9:03 pm
Fat people disgust me! Its your own fault your fat, u started gaining weight and at some point you should have said “Hey! I’m getting fat, need to fix this” I’m sorry I know a lot of diets don’t work but this does: eat less, exercise more, its common sense! Fat people are just to lazy to do it! The average american woman SHOULD not be 12! You can fix FAT!
Comment by Travis — October 3, 2010 @ 6:39 pm
I have been many sizes from 6-20 which iam now a 20 I am latin any i find that when i was smaller i had a lot more white men hit on me and want to date me as i got bigger in size the hispanic men like me in the middle range i call it from 10-14 and after that the black men have me lots of love from 14-20 but i think it the indevisually man not a group we should worry about only in america this is an issue in other parts of the world they love if size 8-14 like england the men like a little chubbyness and the caribbean and africa and even some part of italy but you do have to love your self because men love confidence so if you think your sexy and act like your sexy you will get far in love confidence.
Comment by candy jones — October 14, 2010 @ 4:52 pm
Hi Candy,
There are definitely cultural differences like you mentioned when it comes to body perception.
Nancy
Within the US and throughout the world. Interesting insights
Comment by Nancy Hayssen — December 29, 2010 @ 11:14 pm
Hi Travis,
Yes, you can “fix fat” if you choose. We all have a choice the way we want to live. Neither is right or wrong.
As a note, at a size 12, a woman may or may not have fat on her body depending on body frame.
Nancy
Comment by Nancy Hayssen — December 29, 2010 @ 11:17 pm