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April 30, 2008

Miley Cyrus’ Vanity Fair Photo Shoot: News or Non-issue?

by Reena Daruwall, guest writer for Nancy Hayssen.com

miley_cyrus_vanity_fair.jpgEverywhere you go on the internet, people seem to be discussing Miley Cyrus’ Vanity Fair Photo shoot. At first I thought to myself what storm in a teacup this was and then I read a lot of lot of different points of view, which made me realize that there are more issues underlying this than immediately meet the eye.

One blog even referred to the term ‘grooming’ (that pedophiles use on their victims) in connection with this photo shoot and I thought to myself that is just going too far! That’s just paranoia! And it is an insulting inference to draw simply because the photographer is a lesbian!

The questions that come to mind are these:

  • Are these pictures appropriate for a fifteen year old?
  • Did the magazine/photographer mislead the Cyruses in any way?
  • Is it the magazines responsibility to ensure that the pictures were appropriate or was it the responsibility of Miley’s family, who were, by all accounts present at the photo shoot.
  • Given that Miley was wrapped in a sheet that way she was, did the family expect any other kind of picture to emerge?

Personally I think the photos are quite good and calling the photographer, Annie Leibovitz, a ‘smut peddler’ (that is one of the choice appellations she has been accorded), is just unwarranted. I understand that the photographer has Whoopi Goldberg’s vote of confidence who has worked with her and insists that Annie was very above board about her work and always showed her subjects her work. Some people are dismissive of her work because it is commercial she deals mainly with celebrities. There is the contrary view, with perceives her work as imaginative and creative, and her photographs “as documents of popular culture”.

I think that if these photos can be labeled inappropriate, the responsibility must be made to rest chiefly with the parents or other family members who were responsible for the welfare of a 15 year old. I don’t think that a magazine like Vanity Fair can be expected to be a guardian of morals.

Reports say that Miley was wearing a flesh colored tank top under the sheet when the photos were taken; surely the implication is that this was meant to give an impression of wearing nothing but a sheet? I can’t imagine what other visual result could have been envisaged by the Cyruses.

One reason that I think the Cyruses may have been dismayed by the pictures is that Disney may have disapproved, after all Miley is a role model for little girls and this photo shoot is certainly not in keeping with the scrubbed clean image that is associated with her TV show. Certainly as a parent of a 4 year old who is occasionally permitted to watch the Hanna Montana show, I would not want the kind of role model for my child that is portrayed in these pictures.

What is your opinion on this fracas?

 

April 29, 2008

Eat More Chocolate, Have More S-E-X!

by Reena Daruwalla, guest writer for Nancy Hayssen.com

Have you noticed that most things that we like are probably not good for us? I love ice cream fudge sundaes, I love deep fried mostly everything, I love to eat the skin off the grilled chicken and toast dripping with butter.

chocolate.jpgEvery time I eat something like that (and I do, occasionally), I think that this will probably give me high cholesterol or clog my arteries or do something unimaginably horrible to me. Sigh!

The joy of eating road side paani-puri (bit like the Indian version of fast food) is unparallel but it will probably give me jaundice! So is there is anything that I love that is actually good for me???

Ever since I read Nancy’s post about Tip no. 7 I thought to myself maybe there are some things that are good for me. And sure enough sex is good for us! Chocolate is good for us!

Since I adore dark chocolate, this is good news (that is the type that’s good for us). Dark chocolate has flavonoids which have anti oxidant properties and which in turn improves blood vessel functioning, keep cholesterol from gathering in blood vessels, reduce the risk of blood clots, and slow down the immune responses that lead to clogged arteries!

sex.jpgWhoo hooo then, we can all indulge fearlessly in dark chocolate which has a high cocoa content and is rich in flavonoids. That’s actually good for us!

And what of sex, how is that good for us?

Well apart from the obvious, (pleasure and babies off the top of my head) there are other reasons that we must indulge in original sin!

Well sex gives you a good enough work out to burn some 150 calories! All that heavy breathing and racing of hearts is actually very good for you, researchers assure us. Having sex can cure headaches and having orgasms makes you live longer! While the bonding and intimacy are happy outcomes of good sex, stress release is another!

So did I give you some reason to indulge?

I hope I did!

 

April 28, 2008

A Bit About I, Me and Myself

by Reena Daruwalla, guest writer for Nancy Hayssen.com

I got this idea from Nancy’s earlier post, and I thought I would tell everyone a bit about myself in the same way:

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Your favorite thing? Music
Your dream last night?
Famous, handsome cricketer fell in love with me :)
Your dream/goal? To be happy and healthy, always
Your mother? Powerful influence in my life
Your father? Most positive influence in my life
Where do you want to be in 6 years? To be better at whatever I do and continue to be happy.
Where were you last night? In bed early after an enjoyable but tiring picnic with my husband, my girls and other friends.
One of your wish list items? to meet Paul McCartney (I would have said R D Burman if he wasn’t dead)
Where you grew up? Ahmedabad, Baroda, Pune
The last thing you did? Brushed my teeth and had my morning coffee
What are you wearing? Still in my nightie
Your life? Predictably Unpredictable
Your mood? Mostly good, crabby if the girls (aged 4 and one and a half) are acting up
Missing someone? Not right now
Your car? Takes me from point A to B, is small so parks easily
Favorite Store? LootMart (Indian Bargain Store)
Love someone? God Yes! So much it makes my heart squeeze.
Your favorite color? Red.
When is the last time you laughed? Last night when my younger daughter was trying to get around me by making faces
Last time you cried? Few days ago reading a book
You’re feeling?
Hot so I’ll just switch on the fan
On your mind? Song on the radio (fav Al Stewart ballad)
Last meal included? Veggies and chapatti
You sometimes find it hard to be? In the presence of Stupidity
Something you have a collection of? Music. Cannot bear to get rid even or my old cassettes!
A smell that cheers you up? Rain after a long dry spell. Heavenly Wet Earth Smell!
A smell that can ruin your mood? Burning. That means I will have to cook something again!
Which section you head for first in a bookstore? The Children’s section these days.
Something you’re craving? Tandoori chicken (very strange at this time of the morning)
Favorite place to go for a quiet moment? For a walk or to the gym with my i pod
Something that amazes you? How amazingly varied people are
You have never… been to Iceland. I want to travel the world!
Your fear? Losing someone important
Like someone? Most people unless they give me a reason to dislike them.

 

April 27, 2008

Flowing with the River of Life

waterfall-beauty.jpgThis past year I’ve been the happiest I’ve ever been in my life!

I’m realizing the happiest moments are when I’m “flowing” rather than “fighting” life – surrendering to what is.

Deadlines, calendars, watches, the concept of “time” doesn’t seem to work for me - it makes me feel like I’m “fighting” against something which I’ll never win.

In times I’ve tried to force things to happen, it just doesn’t seem to work out in a way that feels right and even if it does it feels like life is in a constant state of struggle.

Now, I find that when the “timing is right” or it “feels right” and I act upon these moments of inspiration is when I feel most fulfilled. A feeling of being “free” and at “peace with myself” seems to follow.

Maybe it’s living according to Divine Timing and accepting what is which truly makes me happy.

 

April 26, 2008

Regressive Advertising: Fair and Lovely!

By Reena Daruwalla, guest writer for Nancy Hayssen.com

“Wanted: Fair, beautiful girl for ….”, or “Fair, well qualified girl seeks…” This is how a majority of matrimonial adverts in India read. As Americans are obsessive about being a certain size, so Indians are obsessive about being a certain skin color.

The words fair and lovely are almost synonyms and there you have India’s most popular ‘beauty’ product, the world’s largest selling sun screen called Fair & Lovely. This cuts across social, economic and even educational strata. Models and actresses are rarely dark or dusky skinned and those that are tell you how they are routinely made up to look way fairer than they are actually.

While in the West a tanned look is equivalent to a healthy look, that is certainly not so in India. In the cities it is a common sight to see young women on their mopeds wearing long gloves, their entire heads including their faces swaddled in a voluminous scarf. While this is a great way to protect your skin from the elements and pollution, the motive behind this is simply that the young women do not want their skin to darken in the sun.

Nancy told me about her visit to the Philippines, when she headed for the beach to get a nice tan and other people with her who were Filipinos huddled in the shade appalled at the idea. That is how it would be in India as well.

I remember that as children my brother and I who were considered ‘fair’ used to loll in the fierce Indian sun hoping to get tanned mainly because we wanted to be different and attracted a fair amount of disapproval from people around. Lolling in the mid summer Indian sun, I will tell you for free, is fraught with peril. My brother and I only ended up with some ferocious sun burn and peeling painful skin for some days thereafter. So there is ample reason to wear sun block here in India, only not for the reasons that most people do.

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This is the billboard of a fairly commonly seen advert. In this picture see how the ‘before’ picture of the model is dark and also unhappy. The after picture is fair and lovely and happy too! Advertisement for these products is incredibly regressive to say the least and even angry making. The before is invariably sad, unsuccessful perhaps lonely and most certainly dark skinned, the after will miraculously be happy, successful, vibrant, popular, and most certainly fair skinned!

I think we in India need to learn to celebrate all the colors and hues of human skin that there are, celebrate each one’s uniqueness and beauty!

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